On being a mom

Before I was a mom there were very few things that I worried about. I was young, carefree, and was enjoying my life from one minute to the next without pondering the future too much. I wandered the mall with friends, shopped, and ate lunch where ever we wanted while evenings were spent bar hopping or at the movies. Summers at the beach and winters hitting the slopes.

As a mom my life changed considerably. Carefree wasn’t part of who I was anymore and the way I thought, acted, and who I was as a whole changed.

There were feelings that would wash over me like no other and they still do. As a mom you are full of joy, love, fear, worry, concern, happiness, and your head will spin in circles as each day passes. It’s a roller coaster ride and one that I never thought that I would be on and one that I am enjoying every minute of.


My days and nights are filled with my children, the little loves of my life.

There are times though that I find myself day dreaming of free time. Time to do whatever I want and whenever I would like to do it and I can’t imagine that I am the only mom that has ever felt that way. But I find a few stolen moments here and there to call my own where I can simple be me again. A few moments to center myself and start again as mom.


I find myself hoping that I’ve done all that I can to show my children how much I love them. I hope that I have taught them well. I hope that I’ve been a good mom. I have so many hopes & dreams for them …. as well as fears, which I think is all part of being a mom.

Being a mom can be the most challenging job out there without a doubt, but it can also be the most rewarding thing that you ever do. I promise!


There are days I wonder if I have even done anything right…. between the fighting, back talking, and the spitting toddler  I find myself wondering where in the world I went wrong. I wonder if I’m cut out for this job of being mom sometimes.


Then it’s the  simple things can brighten a moms day and make her heart swell with joy…. a smile from their baby, laughter from a toddler, an achievement at school, and just about everything in between. From an infant all the way through teenage years there is always something that my children can do or say that makes me smile everyday. It’s the little joys that get me through to the next day.

Without children I don’t know where I would be or what I would be doing. Honestly, it’s something that I haven’t even considered!

Is being a mom everything you thought it would be?

25 Responses to On being a mom
  1. Tara R.
    December 28, 2011 | 7:53 am

    I have two adult children and as they have grown clearly my role as mom has changed significantly. I’m intrinsically involved in their lives, but now I can do more of the carefree things I did when I wasn’t a mom, while still being available to them if they need me. I’m coming full circle in my life and it’s a little weird.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:09 am

      I can see the same thing with my teen. She is much more independent and doesn’t seem to need me as much as the younger ones… which in a way is kind of sad.

  2. Mrs. Weber
    December 28, 2011 | 8:21 am

    Aww, it’s so weird to look back to my life just 2 years ago and think I was that carefree gal with no worries in the world. My oh my how life can change so fast! While I miss wandering around at little boutiques and Target for hours on end, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Well said, Jackie!

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:10 am

      There are things that I miss but I know that as they grow up & become more independent I’ll be able to start doing some of those things again and even take them with me.

  3. angela
    December 28, 2011 | 8:24 am

    I can relate to this so much :) And being a mom is everything I imagined and more. Of course, some of that more is good and some is crazy!

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:11 am

      It’s the crazy days that I wonder if I even know what I’m doing!! Or I feel that I should call my mom and apologize!

  4. Diana @ A Little Bit of Life
    December 28, 2011 | 8:47 am

    It took me almost two years of trying to become a mom and then a scary two weeks in the NICU with a 3lber. That said being a Mom is so much more than I ever imagined it could be. Even on a day like today where I only managed three hours of sleep between teething, running in circles and shouting in his crib at 3am and a wheezing fit (all from the same one child!) – I wouldn’t trade it for the world. When he walks over to me and gives me a hug and just lays his head on me it makes it all worthwhile!

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:12 am

      I think that we all have good days & bad days. And it’s the good ones that outweigh the bad and keep us going.

  5. liz
    December 28, 2011 | 9:41 am

    I would say both yes and no. Like many, there is that “hollywood” vision of motherhood, but it’s only there *some* of the time. But at the same point, you can’t imagine the feelings until you ARE a mom.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:13 am

      I couldn’t agree more! That “hollywood” vision of motherhood is so rare…. real life is what happens most of the time!

  6. Shell
    December 28, 2011 | 9:53 am

    I definitely have those moments where I feel like I haven’t done anything right. And then others, when I feel like this is how it’s supposed to be.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:14 am

      I think that we do the best we can and know that our kids will turn out just fine. I wouldn’t change it for anything though.

  7. Julie
    December 28, 2011 | 10:47 am

    There are some drudge-y moments for sure. But there is a lot of satisfaction and sweetness as well.

    I had no expectations of motherhood, so I can say I’ve been pleasantly surprised.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:15 am

      You know, now that I think about it I didn’t have any expectations of motherhood either. You really have no idea what you’re getting into or what it will be like until you do it.

  8. Sara
    December 28, 2011 | 11:26 am

    Being a mom is amazing. I’ve noticed that I’ll be hoping and waiting for just a few minutes alone, to leave the house and when the chance comes, I can’t leave Miss A. It’s amazing how that works.

  9. Adrienne
    December 28, 2011 | 11:29 am

    Beautiful. Being a mom is the best thing that ever happened to me. I cannot imagine my life any other way. It is hard though. I pray my boys will grow up knowing they are loved too!

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:16 am

      If I weren’t a mom I have no idea what I’d be doing or where I’d be and honestly I can’t see myself any other way!

  10. selfsagacity
    December 28, 2011 | 12:17 pm

    That’s for sure. I can’t believe still that I have 3. Sometimes I have to sit back and reflect on how I got here…oh wait, there is no time.
    New follower.

  11. Katrina
    December 29, 2011 | 6:19 am

    Being a mom changed me in a ways that I wasn’t expecting. First of all, I had NO idea of the love I’d feel. I *thought I knew love when I fell in love and married my husband. But that love is one kind of love. It cannot be compared to the love a mother has for her child. It wasn’t even in the same ball park for me, at least. I had no idea how strongly I could love another human being until the day that my first child was born. That day changed me forever. Second, I had no clue that the love I had for my first child could ever be match with that of another child. During my second pregnancy, I honestly felt sorry for that baby because I was quite sure there was no way I could love another child as I loved my first child. I think back to those thoughts now and I almost laugh at how silly they were. But I really thought that way. Then, that child was born, and it was as if my heart just doubled in size. I instantly loved that baby just as instinctively and fiercely as I loved my first. I really wasn’t expecting that. I have nine children, and I am still amazed at how the heart is capable of that.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 8:17 am

      It is incredible what we are capable of when it comes to love!

  12. blueviolet
    December 29, 2011 | 10:28 am

    We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t question things, right? On being a mother…I have never in my life felt more fulfilled by anything else. It was what I was made for!

  13. Dina
    December 29, 2011 | 1:01 pm

    My life changed *completely* when my daughter was born. All those feelings you named intensified. It truly is the best thing that ever happened to me, BUT, I still long for those moments of long ago.

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 5:09 pm

      That’s one of the good things about having older kids is that once in a while I get some of the free time to do what I want.

  14. Christina
    December 29, 2011 | 4:56 pm

    Boy that is a loaded question Jackie! I’m like you, somedays I’m scratching my head wondering what the heck I got myself into. Other days I think I rock it!
    The thing I have learned is taking it 1 day at a time is always best. Beautiful babies btw!

    • Jackie
      December 29, 2011 | 5:07 pm

      Thank you!! One day at a time is really the only way to do it!

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