Mom Hair

Alright, you all know what I’m talking about when I say mom hair. It’s that dreaded look where we are no longer cute, fun, and fashionable and have settled into a hairstyle that is quick and easy. Worst than that we cut it short thinking that it is cute and that it’ll be so much easier to take care of and style when in all honesty we’re just fooling ourselves.

So we get that supposed cute hair cut and after a week we look in the mirror and realize that we have mom hair.

Yes, I’ve been saying “we” because 1) I refuse to admit that I’m in this alone and 2) I know you’ve done it a time or two and then quickly did what you could to make it better.

Anyway, I did just that. I had this great idea in my head that I would cut my hair and it would be so easy to style and it’d be really cute and to make it even easier I had a great picture of what I was envisioning.

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This is the cute, non-mom hair cut I had in mind.

Well, I can tell you that it doesn’t look like that. Even with my natural wave/curl I couldn’t get my hair to look even close to that. I’m pretty sure it’s because my hair is freakin’ thick and totally has a mind of it’s own which means that it does what it wants and when it wants. Now I look like a mushroom head instead of having cute hair. It’s mom hair to the 10th degree.

mom hair... or not

I’ve gone from really long hair to medium length and back again. I really am just undecided as to what looks good and what I really like. For the most part I blow it out straight in hopes that it’ll look halfway decent.

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Now, this is where the mom (mushroom head) hair comes in. It has grown out from the original cut and it’s kind of hard to tell in the picture since I have part of it pulled up but you’ll have to trust me. It totally fluffs out on the sides giving me that mushroom head look.

The color is boring… the cut is boring… it’s total mom hair or on the edge of grandma hair which is far worse.

Now this is where you all come in. On Saturday I have a hair appointment for a cut & color and I need your suggestions!

What do I do?!?! 

How do I get awesome looking hair without looking older than I am?

Just for fun I’m going to link up with Seven Clown Circus and Parenting by Dummies for Wordful Wednesday. Maybe someone will have an idea or two for me.

26 Responses to Mom Hair
  1. Brandie
    February 5, 2013 | 11:03 pm

    Go short with lots of texture and go dark. Well that’s what I have done to battle mom hair borderline grandma hair. LOL

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 8:38 am

      I like the idea of dark. I did that last year and I really liked it. I had her do an all over color that was a chocolate brown maybe a shade darker than my natural color and then did low lights in black. We tried it again this year and it didn’t turn out the same.

  2. Kristen
    February 5, 2013 | 11:19 pm

    I have had the same hairstyle most of my life. My hair is so curly that I can’t really have it any way but long or I have an afro. I wish I could help. I guess I would say to look through some magazines and then talk to your stylist before making a final decision. Good luck!

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 8:37 am

      I can see where curly hair would be a lot harder to style! It’s either long or really short!

  3. Kimberly
    February 6, 2013 | 7:47 am

    Oh my, I am in the same position! I cut my hair a few months back, but it is just too thick and curly to actually look like the style I wanted. Now I’m stuck with this weird mushroomy cut. I need help too!

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 8:36 am

      It’s good to know that I’m not the only one with mushroom head. It’s such an odd in between phase!

  4. Mrs. Weber
    February 6, 2013 | 8:03 am

    I think you and I have the same hair…Mine is super thick and has a lot of natural wave/curl. I can’t figure it out either! It.Sucks. when long and short. When short, I always have the mushroom issue as well.

    Maybe a pixie cut? Go big or go home, right? ;) I actually think you could rock it! Otherwise, I’ve got nothing, but I will be looking to you to show me the way! That first pic of you with your cell? Love it! That cut looks great.

    Related: I hate ALL things relating to hair.

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 8:34 am

      It’s funny… so many people would love to have thick wavy hair but they have no idea how much work it really is… short or long!

      A pixie cut… that scares the hell out of me!

  5. Lauren
    February 6, 2013 | 8:17 am

    I echo the pixie cut idea! If you are going to go short, own it! :) Not that I am willing to take my own advice…I am in desperate need of a haircut, but out of fear of the mom cut I am just doing nothing. So I have the opposite problem: too long hair that just hangs there until I get annoyed and pull it into a ponytail!

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 8:35 am

      LOL! I had the long hair and always ended up pulling it back some how all the time because it got in my way and that’s part of the reason that I cut it. A pixie cut is really cute on some people but cutting my hair all of like that… scary!

  6. Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    February 6, 2013 | 9:49 am

    I finally decided to grow mine out and I have just reached the point where it’s all one length, so now I’ll start to see some progress. But it’s all kind of dumb because I hate hair in my face and end up just pulling it back any way I can. I’m hopeless.

  7. Amy @ Oh So Savvy Mom
    February 6, 2013 | 11:03 am

    I have one of those cute, short hair cuts. Unfortunately, when I don’t get the chance to get into the salon and my hair grows our for more than 5 weeks (like now when I haven’t had my hair cut for way more than 5 weeks) it is undeniably mom hair.

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 11:53 am

      See… that’s the other downside to having shorter hair! My cut didn’t start out looking to much like mom hair or mushroom head! I looked at the picture I posted and thought.. that’s not so bad. Then I looked in the mirror and wow, it’s grown out a lot. No wonder it looks terrible.

  8. Sara @ Mom Endeavors
    February 6, 2013 | 11:39 am

    Ha! Good luck! I’m no good with suggestions. I’m not ready to make the leap to the short mom hair cut, but don’t spend time doing my hair. So, it just goes up in the mom hair clip instead! ;)

    • Jackie
      February 6, 2013 | 11:52 am

      I think that the mom clip or pony tail would be way better than mushroom head!

  9. amber
    February 6, 2013 | 1:05 pm

    I always go really, really red when I need a pick me up. Can’t help in the hair department. I’m currently sporting a really boring bob.

  10. Mich
    February 6, 2013 | 1:53 pm

    In love the pix with your phone, doesnt look like “mom” hair to me at all! I would express all of your concerns with your stylist and be armed with photos…color often changes the whole look too!

  11. Mrs. Jen B
    February 6, 2013 | 2:15 pm

    I think a pixie would be adorable! And maybe some highlights? I wasn’t huge on the idea of getting them myself until I finally took the plunge and now I don’t want to be without them.

  12. Emmy
    February 6, 2013 | 4:09 pm

    I won’t even tell you how long it is since I got my hair cut last– it really is sad that I don’t take more time for it, for me. My hair is super thick too so I too run the risk of the mushroom if I get it cut short.

    And now I dye my hair about every 6-8 weeks but not for style but to cover the gray– I just do it myself though as I don’t want to fork out the money to get it done that often.

  13. cori
    February 6, 2013 | 11:00 pm

    Ugh….hair….I’m awful too! I always cut it and do longer layers, but then it gets in my way and I always end up pulling it back!! I don’t have the guts to go to short…..but just chopped it off below my shoulders and it now (just barely) fits in a ponytail, which makes for a quick escape! Bad I know! Can’t wait to see what you end up with, I’m sure it will be darling!

  14. Hanan
    February 7, 2013 | 1:16 am

    I am dealing with that same issue too! I’m in need of a new look and I can’t decide if I want to continue to grow it out (it’s about shoulder length, maybe a little longer) or attempt something shorter. My problem is that my hair is thick, curly, and unruly. Most of the time I throw it up too, because it takes forever to straighten.

    I think shorter looks really cute on you though!

  15. dumb mom
    February 7, 2013 | 7:21 am

    I have no advice. Until recently I had the same hair cut since 4th grade. Plus, I’m sort of restricted with my style choices, it can’t be shorter or I’ll have an afro & it can’t be longer or I look like Cousin It. I echo the go darker suggestion (I read that going blond makes people look older rather than younger). Good luck!

  16. FiddleDeeAshley
    February 7, 2013 | 8:55 am

    You could totally rock a pixie cut! I think it would look amazing on you. I can’t wait to see what you end up choosing!

  17. Debra
    February 7, 2013 | 4:04 pm

    Growing up my mom always said to me that as you get older your need to have shorter hair…which I never understood…..until I had kids. Chin length is as far as I’ll go. I think shorter hair with texture and rich color is good – so your new hairstyle is perfect!

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  19. Cassie
    February 11, 2013 | 9:30 am

    I too go back and forth but within the last year I have learned thy longer hair is way easier then shorter hair. For example with long hair you can put it int a ponytail an just go but short hair I always felt I had to fix. Also my hair dresser told me a tip – add highlights to hide those grays. I went natural when I turned 30 and all of a sudden those unwanted grays were everywhere. Now that I’m back with highlights you can’t see them anymore. Good luck on Saturday!!

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